By April D Findley
“Success is a mindset”. I have heard this statement repeatedly and it used to baffle me. Where are the instructions in that statement? Yeah, it sounds great to say, “If you will change the way you think, then you will become the successful entrepreneur you long to be!” But if you have never been successful before, how will you know what to change about your own thinking? Or, what if you are a new entrepreneur and have not been around successful people? How are you supposed to know how successful people talk to themselves? Is there any real truth to support that a person’s success is reliant on the way they talk to themselves?
Most of us are not programmed with messages that lead to success. In his book What To Say When You Talk To Yourself, Shad Helmstetter, Ph.D. explains how our brain responds to countless subconscious messages by giving the body commands, mostly to keep the body alive. However, there is another type of subconscious message that the brain receives: our thoughts. The thoughts we think, many of which we are unaware of, actually tell our body how to feel and what actions to take. What does this have to do with success? It depends on the messages you have received throughout your life, starting with childhood. Most of us heard “no!” more than 100,000 times in the first 18 years of our lives. As we got older, perhaps we were told that we should not pursue this as a career or we were not smart enough to study that field. A lot of times these messages were coming from well-meaning adults that were trying to protect us from “unnecessary” risk. As we mature into adults ourselves, we take on that “responsible”, “safe” and “mature” way of thinking and we become our own negative message givers. Helstetter goes on to explain how the mind works like a computer, following out the instructions it’s programmed with. The computer doesn’t care what the instructions say. You could upload a virus and the computer will run that program, corrupting all the data it stores UNLESS there is a program installed that deletes viruses. If you tell yourself that you are not a successful person, the brain will control your attitudes and behaviors to make that statement a reality!
We have the ability to reprogram our minds for success. So just like a computer that runs poorly when corrupted with viruses and spyware, our attempts to improve our lives fail when we are carrying around negative programming. When your computer acts up, you take it to the shop. They delete the malicious programs, run some utilities and amazingly, your computer runs like new! We can do the same thing with our minds, wiping it clean of the old, negative programming and putting new, success-driven messages in our mind for the brain to act on. For example, if you are struggling with getting into action and meeting goals for your business, you could use “self-talk” to reprogram your mind. What do you say to yourself about your business? Instead of saying, “I set goals but I never find the time to work on them”, you could say, “Meeting goals is a top priority for me. I set reasonable and reachable goals for myself. It is important to me to reach my goals and I’m achieving goals all the time! I always make time to work on myself and my goals.” Instead of saying, “I am struggling with my business. I just cannot seem to get into action”, you could say, “I look forward to working my business every day. I always have new and creative ideas. I take action every day to do something that helps my business grow. I am successful in my business.” You don’t have to wait until the statements are true before you use them! In fact, when you are coming up with your positive new self-talk, you should state things the way you want them to be as if they were already true! Remember, the brain doesn’t care if the instructions are true or not. The brain is only concerned with carrying out the instructions it’s given. If you use self-talk that tells your brain to be successful, it will naturally comply.
If success is your desire, take the time to feed your mind the right programming. It is recommended in Dr. Helmstetter’s book that you come up with several self-talk statements that give your brain precise instructions to achieve your new behavior. It is recommended to write 12 to 16 statements and programming your mind with these new messages 3 to 4 times a day. You can program your new messages by writing them, reading them, reading them aloud to yourself, or recording yourself reading them, and then listening to the recording. Do this for a few weeks and see what happens! If you are interested in learning more about “Self-Talk”, I strongly recommend reading What To Say When You Talk To Your Self by Shad Helmstetter, Ph.D.
April is a wife and mom living in Colorado with her husband, Matt and their three children. April and Matt run a home based internet marketing company. They offer financial education materials to investors, small business owners, and anyone else desiring to build wealth and learn the secrets of the rich. To learn more about her business Click Here.
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