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Getting Focused In An Unfocused Life

Getting Focused In An Unfocused Life

This post will hit home with a lot of folks.  It’s all about getting focused in your mlm business, even with teenagers, toddlers, and an unrelenting schedule.

Getting Focused In An Unfocused LifeI am the poster-child for the unorganized.  It all started when I joined my first mlm opportunity a few years back.  It was a perfect plan, I would quit my job, start working my business 8-10 hours a day, and replace my full-time income within a few short months.

Boy was I wrong…..

Within the first couple weeks, everything was going great, I had plenty of time to work on my business, I was getting leads, talking to clients, heck I was even starting to get people calling me about my opportunity……..I had no idea what was taking aim at my drive and focus.

Focus stealer #1-  My babysitter quit.  My precious little baby girl was now going to be spending her days with daddy.  How did I overcome this challenge, well a few things helped.  (I’m not going to lie, Dora the Explorer was a nice distraction for her) That freed up an hour or so before nap-time which allowed me some much needed time to do some of the tedious things in my business like building up a Twitter following or building backlinks.  The point is is that there was time, I just needed to learn to maximize what time I had.

Focus stealer #2-  My wife and I were not on the same page with anything.  I mean anything, we were even divided on the clothes I was putting on the baby, it was tough.  We both wanted success with our business but we had very different ideas on how I should go about finding that success.  How did we overcome this challenge you ask?  Well this one took a while, we had to re-evaluate our situation on a regular basis and decide together where we were going forward.  Easier said than done but the key word there is we decided “together.”  It made a world of difference when we had a vision together rather than two separate visions.  It also created accountability.  Which is another key ingredient for network marketers.

Focus stealer #3-  Teenagers that can’t drive themselves around yet.  I’ll admit that this one hit me like a truck and I still have a cast on but it did get a little easier when we started writing everything down and delegating to them more responsibilities.  We now have them doing everything form their own laundry to full on babysitting for nothing.  They’re apart of this family too, and if they want to be treated with respect they need to act like they deserve it, and that means contributing when we need some help and freeing us up to work on our business.

To sum up, life is always going to be there pulling on you in every which direction.  To stay focused, it requires a lot of planning and trial and error.  But getting focused on HOW you’re going to deal with situations rather than waiting for situations to bite you in the butt will change the focus for the better.  I know from personal experience with 4 kids and a high-maintenance wife (I love you honey!!!)

Hope this post helps you get inspired to get focused!

I Fight ‘This Demon’ Everyday

Silly Demon

Silly Demon This one is hard to write because it’s bothering me right now. 

Everyday when I wake up and go through my routine of helping my wife get out the door and getting my little ones situated, there is this nagging inside of me that wants to just give up.

I either want to go back to sleep, play video games, watch some pointless television shows or movies on netflix, check my website stats a hundred times, whatever the case it’s the same demon.

And it never fails, it’s there in my face every morning, no matter what I do.

That demon is responsible for why I struggled as long as I did.

I’m talking about fear.

Fear has driven me to do a lot of things, or in the case of my business, driven me to *NOT* do a lot of things.

I hated it, but I accepted it.  I put up with a lot of my own crap.  This Fear Demon once got me to do yardwork for a month straight while my wife was failing at our business as well.  What a jerk….

I let him run rampant in my life for way too long.

Weeks of in-action, weeks of waiting for things to work instead of working them until they did.  My fear was like gas on a fire…..

But not anymore, I stood up to that bastard.  Fear no longer drives me, it’s Faith.  Faith in myself, faith in my family, faith in my God.

If I don’t have faith, what do I have.  Even people who don’t subscribe to a “Religion” still have faith.  They have faith that there is no God.  This isn’t about religion though.  This is about faith.

This is about having enough faith to get me through the times when lead-flow is scarce, when I don’t know what to write about, when I feel stupid in front of a video camera.  Faith in that I know if I keep doing the things I know work, then I will see success.

So don’t let these demons drag you down, have faith in what you’re doing or what you should be doing.  There aren’t any secrets, there isn’t some magic formula that will turn your business around overnight.  You are the key!

It’s all in your head.  If you think that you suck, you most certainly will.

But if you know that you’re going to be successful, you will start doing the things that will get you there!

I’m not saying that these demons go away either, they will still be there every morning when you get up.  It’s not the demons that should be getting your focus.  It’s how you’re going to handle them when they appear.

Have a great day my friends. 8)

You Suck! How Negative “Self Talk” Can Derail Your Whole Day

Stop Negative Self Talk

Stop Negative Self TalkTypical day in “old Matt’s” life:

Wake up, first thought – This sucks
Second thought – I wonder what the possibility is that I will make it to work early today?
Third thought – Oh God I’m already LATE!

Of course I’m in a much different place now that I’m working from home but those thoughts still lurk around the corner every morning in my sub-conscious mind.

You see, I was setting myself up for failure everyday just by starting off with a poor attitude. I’m not saying that my life sucked because it didn’t, but I wasn’t doing myself any favors either. Check this video out:

Zig Ziglar is one of my favorites because it’s like listening to an old wise prophet. He’s right though, we can effectively control our own attitudes and and have a dramatic shift in our day to day just by changing our self talk from negative to a more positive thought process. It all starts within. I know that I needed this reassurance this morning, how about you?